Deep Conversations of the Willing

• Lisa: If you had a significant other, would you rather have similar personalities or similar interests?
• BryanP: think having both would benefit the couple. By having similar personalities, your core fundamentals add up. Meaning, if you have one person who likes to go out and the other who doesn't, then you will have fundamental personality conflicts. This is HARD to repair because it's not as easy changing someone's personality opposed to changing someone's personal interests. Opposites attract usually talk about the male and female, not the traits they possess. What you want is a bond. That is why, in relationships, you would probably want to find out about the person first to see if they are a "match" for you. If the other person feels the same way then you have a green light to take the relationship to another level. This is aided by having similar interests. The faster you can find out about that, the better.If you want to try something "new" with the significant other, then that's all through compromise, but having a strong foundation IMO is fundamental to any relationship. Any serious relationship, at least.
• Raf: interest > personality. But then again im not looking for marriage anytime soon
• BryanP: think interests will rub, but not necessarily personality UNLESS one is willing to change for the other. For example, if you're introverted and your partner wants to get involved in extroverted activities because that's what he/she likes to do, then there might be a point in the relationship where one gets sick and tired of it.
• Tampson: don't think you really need similar personalities or interests... having similar values and knowing how to compromise probably works out better.
• BryanP: Exactly. Relationships would probably be smoother if everyone agreed with each other. It wouldn't be boring per-se because if you're compatible, then you'd probably want to go out and find new things to do. People aren't necessarily dormant, and if the couple as a pair is dormant, then there obviously isn't any problem with that. IMO there's less things to have conflicts over having similar traits (personality or interests, or both). For example, those "dating" services won't function too well if they decided to pair you up with people who aren't even like you.
• Me: Why not both? I'd like to have both
• Raf: You can't have both
• Me: *sadface*
• Raf: *There, There*